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Building a Relationship of Trust with Your Son

featuring Alvaro de Vicente

Building a Relationship of Trust with Your Son

Our headmaster, Alvaro de Vicente, offers a lecture on how to build a solid relationship of trust with your son. This relationship matters because it is the context within which you will form your boy’s character.
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Emotional Presence and Imperfect Parenting

featuring Alvaro de Vicente

Emotional Presence and Imperfect Parenting

In an age of external perfectionism, our children’s failure to achieve the standards we set for them can cause us anxiety—which itself then becomes an obstacle to the very thriving we hope for. This week on HeightsCast, Headmaster Alvaro de Vicente discusses how to avoid this pitfall. He suggests thinking of good parenting as analogous to tacking into the wind: in order to stay on course, you need to be comfortable taking a non-linear path. In parenting, this means being more focused on processes and less attached to outcomes. It...
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Leading our Sons Towards Integrity

featuring Colin Gleason

Leading our Sons Towards Integrity

Lower School Head, Colin Gleason, offers a Heights Lecture on integrity. He shares how honesty requires far more than merely telling the truth; our boys must learn to live the truth.
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Parenting: Patience or Optimism

featuring Andrew Reed

Parenting: Patience or Optimism

Does your son know that you believe in him? Andy Reed on the power of optimism.
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Learn to Turn: On Parental Prudence

featuring Tom Royals

Learn to Turn: On Parental Prudence

While we often speak of the virtues we wish to see in our children, it is perhaps less common that we reflect on the particular virtues that we need to foster in ourselves. In this episode Mr. Tom Royals, 40+ year teaching veteran and Assistant Headmaster of The Heights, discusses the importance of parental prudence and its progeny: meekness, patience, and humility. In this week’s episode, we sit down with long-time Heights father and Assistant Headmaster, Mr. Tom Royals, to speak about the virtues of parenting. From his wealth of...
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Seeing Our Boys with Loving Eyes with Tom Royals: Not Projects, but Persons

featuring Tom Royals

Seeing Our Boys with Loving Eyes with Tom Royals: Not Projects, but Persons

In last week’s episode, we considered how beauty is a special combination of order and surprise. To behold beauty, we learned, is to contemplate the dynamism of a being on the way to its perfection. It is to see the rose emerging from its seed.  This week we talk with assistant headmaster, Tom Royals, about learning to see the beauty—albeit often messy beauty—of our own growing children. To be sure, in this adventure, we may find more surprise than order. Nevertheless, in learning to see our children with loving eyes,...
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Decisive Parenting

featuring Michael Moynihan

Decisive Parenting

This week on Heightscast, an interview with Head of Upper School, Michael Moynihan, on his new book, Decisive Parenting. For more information or to purchase Michael’s book, click here.

Parent/Son Relationship

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Committing to guide our sons on their journeys to both know themselves and help others do the same sets us, as parents, on a great adventure. There are highs and there are lows, both stemming from a love of our boys that cannot eliminate their freedom. So how do we, loving parents who have journeyed ourselves for many years, guide boys who are bristling with a desire for independence and assertion? Experienced parents know there is no definite answer--aside from prayer and grace. There are, however, certain contours offered by the wisdom of our tradition and our community. This collection features guidance on how we can accompany our boys in a relationship of trust that respects freedom but evokes responsibility. Our presenters share lessons learned both from our tradition and from working with thousands of great mothers and fathers.