To assist your son in developing systems to help him actualize his summer goals, download the free Heights Summer Planner here.
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While summer is a time for rest and relaxation, it is also an opportunity for personal growth. Indeed, the increase in external freedom, which the summer months often afford our sons, provides an occasion for growth in interior freedom.
In this week’s episode, Mr. Joe Cardenas, head of mentoring at The Heights School, discusses how you can help your son make the most of the summer months. To this end, Mr. Cardenas suggests looking at the summer from two perspectives: the bird’s eye view and the daily routine. Looking over the summer as a whole–perhaps with a calendar in hand–we can help our sons set goals and make big-picture plans. But goals without effective systems are mere wishes, so we should also encourage our sons to develop a good daily routine that will help him to realize these goals.
In particular, Mr. Cardenas suggests five areas for routines:
- Waking-up and going to bed
- Reading
- Life of prayer
- Physical exercise
- Acts of service
Of course, and as always, encouragement should come in the context of freedom and in an age appropriate manner; we want to help our sons set goals and formulate routines for themselves, not impose our own ideas in an overly rigid manner. One of the great advantages of the summer is, after all, the opportunity for our boys to grow in the use of their freedom.
Show Highlights
- How summer can be a time of great personal growth
- Two perspectives on the summer: the birds eye view and the daily routine
- Ideas on helping your son make use of a calendar
- Why increased freedom during the summer is an opportunity for growth in virtue
- The importance of systems for success, not just goals
- Areas for daily routines: wake-up time, reading plan, life of prayer, physical exercise, service, bed-time
- How should parents discuss goals and routines with their son?
- Three ways to help your son develop a summer routine: know your son, engage his freedom, share your own goals
- Should my son get a job?
- Unstructured free time is just as important for older boys as it is for younger boys
- Why personal growth is ultimately oriented towards the service of others
Suggested Reading
Leisure: The Basis of Culture, Josef Pieper
Additional Listening
Three Components of a Great Lower School Summer
Heights Resources
Planning
Free Printable Summer Planner PDF
Fitness
Reading
Heights Book Review (A review of contemporary literature for boys)
Heights Books (Books read for extra credit at The Heights)